Please will you try and assist me understand my 8 year old.   She is now grade 2.

 

The parents meeting were held recently and I was quite disappointed at what her teacher had to say

 

My daughter had maintained the top 3 position in her class in grade 1 and also got the academic achievement award in her class.   She wrote the  external tests and received the platinum award for them as well.

 

She started the first term in Grade 2, by maintaining the top 3 position in her class again.  Her Grade 2 teacher however, tells me that she is quite shocked that she did so well, cos she is very slow in doing her work in class.  She always has to say to my daughter to speed it up and finish her tasks. 

 

I have spoken to my daughter,   and I know by nature she is generally a slow child, in any task she carries, whether she brushes her teeth,  has a bath, or dresses for school.....  she just takes him time.  I sometimes have to scream as I am constantly getting late for work because of her slow nature.   No matter how early she gets up,  she just ends up taking her time. 

 

I normally set out worksheets so that when she gets home from school she does them.  (This is done after she has a little nap, and has her play time)

 

When I get home from work in the evening around 6:30 or so,  I go through the work I have given her plus her homework from school. 

 

I am beginning to worry about what her teacher had to say.   How do I change her habits from slow to being a little faster and also that when she does her work, she does it properly and at the same time check for accuracy.   She starts writing her exams/tests from the 24th May.  

 

She has being doing well thus far,  and I would like her to maintain that standard.  

 

Do you think that she is maybe bored or has a wondering mind?  How do I help her still be successful? 

 

All information and help will be most appreciated.  

Anyway, what I wanted to say is I don �t think anybody has the perfect solution. I �ve recently talked to some friends who have kids 7-9 years old and they all have this problem. We all have our good days/weeks/months and not-so-good days - when our kids do their tasks and chores in a short time, with smiles on their faces, with lots of success and we feel like we �re doing our parents � job well; or the days when your ego gets a blow and you feel like a complete failure as a parent, like a drill sargeant nobody respects... But we �ve all agreed on one thing - our kids usually, almost always, have their reasons for doing what they do and how they do it - it is our job to try and find out what the reason is. It may be a different teacher, or a new friend/bully at school, or boring school material, or our high expectations, or the fact that they miss us while we �re at work... Give yourself and her some time together, some playtime (during which you may find out more than while trying to go for a serious talk) with her... perhaps she �s trying to tell you something but she �s not aware of it or doesn �t know how to...