Dear Sam,
I �m posting here, because I don �t want to upset you with a pm. though I know this post will upset you too. But maybe, just maybe, it could enlighten you, so, this is my contribution and I hope it will make you think about what �s going on with you.
Listen, it seems you are dealing with a strong anger issue.
You don �t find anything in other people �s posts but more to feed that anger; this is quite obvious reading the way you responded to Jay ho.
It seems that the only type of response you want to get is "your avatar is fine", some shallow response about these messages being rude, or some of the kind. No other answer will be satisfying enough to you, except for the last 2.
You bring up this subject every now and then, and although Victor has suggested we shouldn�t bring private messages to the forum, you keep on doing this.
About your anger: I suggest you face the real issues that are causing it, instead of keeping deviating it from its real target. This won �t do you no good, this won �t help ypu out with your pain.
So, I suggest you seek some real sound advice, which you can �t find here. I �m talking about professional advice , and I really mean it, because I do think you suffer from some kind of, either a permanent or acute condition that you must tackle. And I �m quite serious about it.
I see you are a smart person and could try to deny or even minimize or descredit what I �m saying: this is part of your condition as it is obvious in the way you respond to people who don �t answer to you the way you are expecting; and that is because your posts show that you are unconsciously looking for people to reinforce your anger and this explains that you don �t respond harshly to people telling you "your avatar is ok" or "that is rude", as you respond to people who provide some sound, honest advice, such as Jayho did. In fact, the pattern of your responses to this category of messages is: either you ignore them or you respond unkindly.
People (both types I mentioned in my last paragraph) will end up ignoring you.
This is my last word on this subject: get help. You deserve it. I �m serious. I know that in your own mind, you will acknowledge my post. At least, I hope you do. For your own sake.
Take care.
edit: please, don�t send unpleasant p.ms; I won�t publish them at the forum; I�ll just delete them & I�ll click ignore user. As far as following my own advice, I did already. I went through the terrible loss of my first beloved son and believe me, I had to get professional help and I just faced it. Hopefully enough, I recovered easily, but I only stopped when the doctor told me I was excused; I�ve been there last November, I intend to go there as many times as I feel necessary, because I�m still grieving and struggling. I owe it to myself and to my family. We deserve to keep strong and healthy, for ourselves and for the people we love. We have to be brave, even when we�re dealing with tremendous pressure. Life isn�t always easy and smooth, but we have to make our own way through it. I�ll let you have the last word.
